Dear child,

As adult as you feel, remember :

Let me be the one to tell you, life is not fair.

You did not deserve to be treated cruelly.
You deserved respect and dignity.
You deserved to feel safe and secure.
You are owed an apology.

But you did not get it.
And so, what are you going to do now?
Look to the past?
Struggle to be present?
Miss out on creating a future?

That is a waste of your precious time.

You need time to heal – I hear you say.
This is wise.

Focus on your healing, not the past.
Distract your mind by focusing on the now.

See that flower? describe it to your mind.
Watch your mind follow your lead.

Show it a passing bird.
Listen for its music.
Look for a stunning tree.
Touch its leaves.
Let your hand trace its bark.
Close your eyes and feel
its patterns under your palm.

Dig deep to show your mind
what you want it to notice.
Practice this daily –
like a muscle in training.

Yes, you will still have your pity parties.
That’s fine. Just time them.
Don’t live there.

Take the reins in your own hands –
and start to ride.